The Slippery Slope

I think most of you are very familiar with the selfish seamstress and the concept of dont-sew-for-others. And if you haven’t figured it out, I am a selfish seamstress as well. Besides a few bags for my mom, ties for my dad and hubby, a T shirt for a friend, a laptop cover for my hubby, and a half assed attempt at a ninja uniform for him, I havent sewn for other people at all. And that is not because people have never asked me to sew stuff for them. I got plenty of that coming to me, but I always say no as nicely as I could.

I had always been that way since I started sewing. My grandparents visited us back when I was into soft toy sewing, and they wanted me to sew a teddy bear for my baby cousin that I had never seen. What did I say? NO! I did not see the point of sewing for a cousin who is too young to appreciate it. And most importantly, I did not like sewing under requests. I dont think I was selfish, I had given all the softtoys I sewn to all my friends and teachers as a token of remembrance when I left Singapore, leaving myself only Mr Towel. And that was not because we had no room in the luggage, we had free moving service that moved all our furniture from Singapore to the US. Thinking back, my grandparents probably just wanted a bear so they can show off to their friends and family back in China how talented I was. I guess they could have just told me that and I would have given them a toy I already made, because THAT is a valid reason (and did i tell you? I love attention)!

Now that I started sewing clothing, I am even more unwilling to sew for others, especially when I am asked to do so. All the stuff I had sewn for others? They are all surprise presents. None of them are “ordered to go” . Even my own poor mother, had bought some fabric a few years back, and wanted a long length skirt. Truthfully, If I sewed for anyone, it would be for her and my dad (though, men’s clothing is so intimidating!), but that fabric was polyester! I had already became a snobby seamstress by then and i detested polyester. So it sat on my shelf for a while. Then she cut it up and relieved me of the task I hated most. It sat on my shelf for a little while more. Now she had given up all hope for that skirt, as I had told her honestly — that fabric gives me no motivation. Yes, MY OWN MOTHER had to suffer with my selfish seamstressing.

On the less-selfish  side, I had given private sewing lessons to my good friends, and even a stranger (she did pay for it, as she got the lesson from me at a charity auction) for free. I dont mind providing them some of the material they needed. It may take a few sessions, and I still have to sew parts of the garment that is too challenging, but to me, the work is worth it, and its actually fun. When I show off my clothing to other people, I want to hear “can you teach me how to do that?”, and not “sew me one of those!”. Because the appetite for stuff seems so insatiable, and I rather teach them how to fish than give them a fish and keep them happy for just a little bit before they come back for more. Besides, sewing a dress takes ~10 hours of work spanned over 1 or 2 weeks, and so many things needs to go right for the person to like it: the fit, the fabric choice, the style. And I highly doubt they would feel the grateful feeling I would expect from someone I spent 10 hours of work on if the stuff doesnt come out right. And then on top of it — imagine that they can just spend 100 dollars (which is VERY cheap comparing to labor) at a store and get an outfit that they KNOW fits (most people are all taller & bigger than me!) and a style they KNOW they like. But if they did it themselves, well, it is hard to not like it since they had put so much work into it! The other day my really good friend Ngoc sewed this Vivat Veritas back cutout dress with my instructions, and we had such a fun time together (isnt she adorable with her hubby?) :

You may be wondering, why is Juebejue ranting on and on about this? Well, Juebejue just got suckered into sewing for someone at their request!! *GASP* *OMG* *the world is ending*! Every year at my work, my coworkers organizes a paddle for life team to raise $ for the cancer association. We raise money as a team, and race other teams across a body of water.

I had been racing with them for a few years and I really like what they do. Lots other teams has the drummer wearing a funky hat, but our drummer does not have one. As a nerdy engineering company, we decided to name our boats “Spartan” and “Virtex”, after our major two lines of products. So the team had an idea — we can sew a spartan hat for the drummer, looking like this logo:

And of course, being close to the drummer (she sits right next to me) and the organizers, and being the pro seamstress in their eyes, they all looked to me. DARN! And then they wrote me an email and asked that IF I have time, MAYBE I can sew a hat for them. DARN. It is kind of hard to turn down a team of charitable people with a charity that I was involved in, and no less, with a cute request like that.

So I sucked it up and made this:

Isnt it adorable? I love it! I got lots of chuckles from my friends on this. But, have I gone on a slippery slope? I worry that after the race, random people are going to come with random requests to make their kids a costume. Of course, I’d have to turn them down, even if they bring the cute kid with puppy eyes. Though… I wouldn’t mind some help with my backyard. Maybe I’ll start sewing for others, but for every 1 hour I spent sewing, they can work on my shitty backyard for an hour, that’s pretty fair game, right? Or, maybe I’ll just give them this face:

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10 responses to “The Slippery Slope

  • chie

    haha that’s soo cute! i know the team, my co-worker was a member!!

    as to the selfish seamstress topic, although i sew for a people, i only do it if i get paid, except for some exceptions – family or very close friends. and i HATE when people ask me to alter things! altering things takes much more than making things! people don’t understand how much effort it goes in to it, from ripping the seams to putting new zippers etc. anyway, so in some sense, i am a selfish seamstress as well.

    xx

    • juebejue

      hehehe, i still cannot comprehend how you are able to sell your creations for so cheap! i would not be able to make a dress and charge only 60 dollars cos i am way too slow! 🙂

  • Brenda

    So cute!! It wasn’t totally selfish because you are part of the team so it was for you too! At least, that is one way to look at it.

  • Ngoc

    Hehe….I’m so glad you weren’t too selfish with me because I LOVE my dress!!! In fact, I love it so much I don’t want to wear it anymore. I’m afraid it would be damaged! BTW, your drummer hat is awesome. I love the face too….not scary at all. 😛

  • hungrypanda

    omg! do you work for xilinx? what small small world.

  • hungrypanda

    Xilinx was my first job out of college. I was on the yield team, the spartan was one of my lines, although I don’t recall having that awesome logo. Sigh, that was such a long time ago, I’m feeling my age this morning. 🙂

    Anyways, good to see another geek girl who loves sewing. You make cute stuff and your hubby takes great pictures. Keep it up!

    _A

  • Jess

    I totally understand being a selfish seamstress – I am one myself!

    Sewing clothing just takes too much time to say yes to every request that comes my way (though I did agree to sew a simple Halloween costume for an acquaintance who is paying me).

    I even lost a friend because of my selfish seamstress ways. She asked me make her a fully boned corset, which takes me about 8 to 10 hours plus custom pattern drafting for $60. The supplies alone would be half of that price! I told her I would help her draft a pattern and guide her through making her own, to which she replied “I thought we were friends” and then she stopped talking to me. Pretty juvenile, and not what you’d expect from someone you’ve only known for about 4 months! Like you, only my close family would be able to get that kind of labor out of me :D.

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